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By Tracey Cox for MailOnline. It's one stigma that's held fast — yet it's far more likely you will encounter a late life male virgin than ever before. The Next Steps study which charts 16, millennials says one in eight British year-olds are still virgins: some estimate it's more likely to be one in six.
Research done by The University of Chicago reported that the of young men who report being virgins has tripled since Hook up apps and social media has made sex a little too available. This culture of hypersexuality makes young men feel intensely anxious about performance and online porn adds to the pressure. Lots of young people think the world is bleak and the future uncertain. They have low self-esteem, high anxiety and depression.
In the past, meeting a guy aged 25 to 35 who turned out to be a virgin would ring alarm bells. But if yesterday's late life virgins were all loners or geeks or thought of that way , today's aren't. I spoke to four men who all lost their virginity later than the norm to find out their experiences. British sex expert Tracey Cox interviewed men who lost their virginity late in life. Stock image. I was traumatised by my mum's affair. I was a virgin until my late 20s even though I'm very social, tall and not bad looking. I live in a predominantly female household: there's my mum, my two sisters and me.
My mum had an affair which lasted a few years - I found out when I was The affair didn't last but she left my dad eventually and I think that left me feeling insecure about women. She's a nice person, my mum, but she still hurt my dad badly. If she did that to him, a woman could do this to me. Her affair happened around the time everyone else was losing their virginity. Looking back, it's obviously the reason why I didn't. At the time, I wasn't aware this was the reason. I simply wasn't interested in having sex at all. As time went on and no girlfriend appeared, it was clear my mum thought I was gay.
She instigated some clumsy and obvious conversations about how it didn't matter what sex I was attracted to, she would still love me. It was excruciating and made me feel like a freak. It's not that I didn't have any sexual encounters. I had a girlfriend when I was 14 and touched her breasts and did all the adolescent fumbling.
But the sex didn't end with intercourse and after Mum's affair, I withdrew and didn't even masturbate for years. To be honest, I didn't think about it that much. I didn't feel great about being a virgin but it didn't define me. I had faith that, once I met the right person, it would all sort itself out. Does it mean there's something wrong with him? It's easier for a man to end up a virgin than you think. Sometimes it's deliberate: for religious or moral reasons. Other times it's that they didn't have a first sex encounter when everyone else did and it's made them nervous about doing it since.
Does it mean he won't be any good in bed? Some women claim being the first to introduce a man to the pleasures of sex is the ultimate in sexual head-games, unlike anything else they've experienced. There are a lot of guys out there who think they're great lovers - but they're not. Tell them they're doing something wrong and they get offended.
With a virgin, it's usually different. They pay attention and listen. They look to their partner to teach them and with time and patience, could mould into your idea of the perfect lover. Is he a bad risk because he'll want to go off and do it with other people? It depends on the person. It isn't uncommon for male virgins to move on quickly once they have done the deed but not necessarily because they want to make up for lost time.
I'd rather forget the person who witnessed that,' one man who lost his virginity at 27, told me. Am I morally obliged to stay with him for a while, after we have sex? Other guys will be more than happy for you to exit left having done the deed see above.
As always, it's entirely individual. Trust your instincts but do remember that he is likely to be sensitive about it and anything you do afterwards, will have tremendous ificance. Be kind. I started working for a marketing company and I fell for a co-worker. I was 27, she was After we'd been seeing each other for a few weeks and played around a bit, I felt safe enough to tell her I was a virgin. The first time was predictably quick: over and done with within seconds. But we kissed and laughed and that was a few years ago. I still battle with trust but losing my virginity late in life hasn't had a drastic effect on my sex life now.
It's pretty good! I'm a virgin for religious reasons. I'm 34 and Muslim. Sex is not discussed in my family. If it is, it's something to be ashamed of and hidden. I am religious. Not as devout as my parents, but sex is a big deal for me. Most of the kids at our school lost their virginity drunk at a party.
I probably could have gone down that path but I didn't want to do that. I also wouldn't want to have sex with the type of person who will swipe right and do it with a stranger. I am like most of my British friends, who haven't grown up with religious parents, in all ways except for this. And drinking.
I think this has a lot to do with me being a virgin. Because I don't drink, women feel self-conscious drinking around me and, from what I can tell, it's when people get drunk that sex happens. None of my friends know I haven't had sex they think I don't broadcast my relationships because my parents might get upset if she's not Muslim , so they talk to me about sex assuming I've had experience.
I am jealous of the experiences they're having. I want to know what oral sex feels like, what it feels like to be inside someone. What it feels like to sleep naked with someone. I am open to having a relationship and sex with a woman who isn't Muslim. But I will probably end up losing my virginity to a Muslim woman because she is the only one who will understand why I am still a virgin at This upsets me. I want to have a healthy, explorative sex life, like my non-religious friends have. I worry that if I do end up with a deeply religious partner, she won't be open to doing the things I would like to try.
I don't want to have the soulless, joyless experience of sex that my parents have. I was an accidental virgin. The stereotype of a male virgin is someone who is desperate and ugly. That's simply not true. I was 32 when I lost my virginity I'm now 35 and while I'm not the life of the party, I'm certainly not shy.Looking to lose virginity male
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Virginity: A Very Personal Decision